Closet Cooking: Buffalo Chicken Grilled Cheese Sandwich.

Within as little as two weeks, we may know whether AFER’s case challenging Prop. 8 will be heard by the U.S. Supreme Court. If the Justices decide not to hear our case, marriage equality will be restored in California. Regardless of what the U.S. Supreme Court decides to do, Prop. 8 is hanging by a thread. AFER is working with our attorneys and California state officials to get you the most up-to-date information about what could happen and when.

Check out AFER’s video and infographic that explain timing and possible outcomes of the Prop. 8 case at the U.S. Supreme Court.

If the U.S. Supreme Court decides to hear our case for marriage equality, the announcement can come as early as September 25. That’s only a week and a half away. AFER’s distinguished co-counsel Ted Olson and David Boies will file written briefs and present oral argument in the spring. A final decision would likely be issued by June 2013.If the Court decides not to hear our case, the announcement could come as early as October 1. The Ninth Circuit decision that ruled Prop. 8 unconstitutional will be made permanent, with marriages starting as soon as the Ninth Circuit issues its mandate, likely within several days after the Supreme Court denies review.

The other big news today is that there are now over 275 readings of Dustin Lance Black’s play “8” across the country and the world—278 to be exact. Community theaters, colleges and community groups are staging performances to bring a greater understanding about why marriage equality is so important, and how the arguments used against allowing all loving couples the freedom to marry cannot stand up in the court of law, where facts and truth matter. The play is also set to reach more audiences with a new Spanish-language translation.
We are on the cusp of achieving everything we’ve been fighting for. It is now a matter of days, and at the longest a few months, before Prop. 8 is gone for good.

this is me today

1.   I spent a reasonable amount of money on these sheets.  They are the most perfect shade of deep peacock-blue.  If I were blue I would want to be this shade of blue.  ( Don’t worry if you are hearing Miranda Priestly lecture about Cerulean blue to the  new Emily; I can too).  They have a high thread count because, let’s face it; air makes me itch.  One side of them is like silk, so someone please explain why the other side feels like burlap?

2. Our Dyson STINKS like rotting dog.  They may be the only vacuum not to lose suction, but they also hold a bad smell.  It is so bad i wonder if someone sucked up a dead mouse.  Yuck.  Warranty call.

3. The liquor store by my house charges 6.50 for a pack of smokes and doesn’t carry milk.  A little part of me misses the old neighborhood

The common wisdom goes like this: that the myth of “some enchanted evening,” when all is awash with the thrill of connection and the aliveness of new romance, is actually a delusion… a hormonally manufactured lie. That soon enough, reality will set in and lovers will awaken from their mutual projections, discover the psychological work involved in two people trying to reach across the chasm of real life separateness, and come to terms at last with the mundane sorrows of human existence and intimate love.                            
In this case, the common wisdom is a lie.

From a spiritual perspective, the scenario above is upside down. From a spiritual perspective, the original high of a romantic connection is thrilling because it is true. It is in fact the opposite of delusion.  For in a quick moment, a gift from the gods, we are likely to suspend our judgment of the other, not because we are temporarily insane but because we are temporarily sane.  We are having what you might call a mini-enlightenment experience.  Enlightenment is not unreal; enlightenment – or pure love — is all that is real. Enlightenment is when we see not as through a glass darkly, but truly face to face. What is unreal is what comes after the initial high, when the  personality self reasserts itself and the wounds and triggers of our human ego form a veil across the face of love. The initial romantic high is not something to outgrow, so much as something to earn admittance back into – this time not as an unearned gift of Cupid’s arrows, but as a consequence of the real work of the psychological and spiritual journey. The romantic relationship is a spiritual assignment, presenting an opportunity for lovers and would-be lovers to burn through our own issues and forgive the other theirs, so together we can gain reentrance to the joyful realms of our initial contact that turn out to have been real love after all.Our problem is that most of us rarely have a psychic container strong enough to stand the amount of light that pours into us when we have truly seen, if even for a moment, the deep beauty of another. The problem we have is not that in our romantic fervor we fall into a delusion of oneness; the problem is that we then fall into the delusion of separateness. And those are the romantic mysteries — the almost blinding light when we truly see each other, the desperate darkness of the ego’s blindness, and the sacred work of choosing the light of mutual innocence when the darkness of anger, guilt and fear descend.

In life it seems we all want the rewards,  brilliant huh?  Of course we do, but I’ve been noticing so many people who them without doing the work.  The spew out a lot of rhetoric and nonsense and catch phrases and somehow float to the top, above people who really do work their butt off.  Maybe it is just the environment that I am in lately, who knows.

I do know that the period of time in my life where I just took it as the norm is over.  I can box with the best of them, and just because i don’t use it doesn’t mean that I don’t have a sneaky and strong left hook.

I hate this era where you can’t tell anyone off for being a snake at work without them going to tattle.  I’m not in any trouble…just an observation.  Grow up peeps.

YOU CAN’T THE THE EGGS WITHOUT RAISING THE CHICKEN

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p>In life it seems we all want the rewards,  brilliant huh?  Of course we do, but I’ve been noticing so many people who them without doing the work.  The spew out a lot of rhetoric and nonsense and catch phrases and somehow float to the top, above people who really do work their butt off.  Maybe it is just the enviornment that I am in lately, who knows.

I do know that the period of time in my life where I just took it as the norm is over.  I can box with the best of them, and just because i don’t use it doesn’t mean that I don’t have a sneaky and strong left hook.

I hate this era where you can’t tell anyone off for being a snake at work without them going to tattle.  I’m not in any trouble…just an observation.  Grow up peeps.

Song by Blue Six

some people look for lovesettle when they’ve looked enoughothers will take their timetakes too long they’ll soon findsome people need their fearthey think it makes life clearno one’s on earth aloneyet everyone’s on their ownsomeday one day maybesomehow, not now and you will findwhat you losewhen you have peace of mindmost start out with great ambitionyears gone bylose your time lose your minddrink that wine, drink that winelook at me i’m pureeverything that i am i adoreit’s the reason that life is forit’s my heart that i need to be sureheep it purebe pure, anything that you dare and moreevery nap of my hair i’m purewhat you love at the root, at the corekeep it puresome people look for lovesettle when they’ve looked enoughmost people think they have timeto begin lifethey’re so wrongthey’re so wrongthey’re so wrongwhat i dream of, if i dream hard enoughwill become mineif i don’t run out of all my timemost people have intuitionto love lifelove your lifefeel alive, feel alivelook at me i’mfree……….la la la la la